A few weeks ago, my hubby and I celebrated 36 years of marriage. Our blessed event occurred on July 7, 1990 or “7-7 @ 7” as my hubby likes to say. Normally, I don’t write on my blog about super personal issues unless God prompts me to include them. But today, I interrupt our regularly scheduled topic to write about our union.
My husband and I have been reading through the New Testament this summer. As part of our daily program, we’ve had lots of days where we’ve been in Matthew. Many of the readings have covered Jesus healing numerous people and performing miracles. I know there are many adults who struggle with these miracles. I never have. When Jesus walked the earth, I KNOW He had the power and healed the blind, deaf/mute, paralyzed, infirmed or even those that needed demons cast out. We’ve traveled to Israel and even witnessed the exact locations or historical places where these miracles occurred. It only confirmed for me what I knew in my heart. I still KNOW He has the power to heal. I’ve seen it in my immediate family and with friends.
I have been a believer in Jesus since I was a young child of 10. Since that time, I’ve witnessed miracles…things that could only be explained by the touch from the Master.
My husband and I were talking about this very thing – miracles we’ve witnessed in our own lives and/or the lives of family members.
One of the biggest in my life is how I met my husband. My story is not just one of finding my soul mate or the love of my life. It’s a true story of how God orchestrated events and circumstances to bring us together. It’s a true tale of a miracle of major proportions that only God Almighty could’ve directed.
A young girl of 14, I was in a small group Sunday School class with other 8th grade girls. Our teacher was a godly lady named Jeanette Cathy. I loved her dearly. You may recognize her last name; her hubby was Truett Cathy, best known for being the founder and successful entrepreneur of Chick-fil-A, Inc. – in my opinion, the best and most unusual fried chicken sandwich. I didn’t love Mrs. Cathy because she was Truett’s wife; it didn’t matter to me how much money she had or who she was married to. I loved her because she invested in me and the other girls. It was obvious how much she truly cared about each of us. She didn’t just teach us the Bible – she reached out and taught by example what it meant to love and care as Jesus did so I sat up and listened when she taught because she invested in me.
One morning in Sunday School, Mrs. Cathy said, “Girls, it’s not too early to start praying about who your husband will be.” I don’t know about the other girls, but this statement got my attention. My husband?! I was living in the “here and now” thinking of boyfriends but never a husband!
She proceeded.” When I was your age, I prayed and asked God to make it obvious who my husband should be. Around this same time, I had reoccurring dreams of a man riding up on a white horse. I never connected my prayers with the dream.”
She then relayed the story about her mom telling her a new family had moved in down the dirt road from them. Shortly afterwards, one of their sons came riding up on a white horse. It was Truett. After a period of time, she and Truett became “courting” (her word back then). Him riding up on that white horse was her “sign” from God that Truett was the one God intended for her. Needless to say, there are a few more details to her story, but that’s what I remembered. My take away: God was faithful in answering her prayer and making it clear who HE wanted her husband to be.
I was in awe and thought her story was one of the coolest I had ever heard!
Upon hearing her testimony of God’s faithfulness, I began to pray and asked God to make it so evident who my husband should be. During this time in my life (8th grade – 14 years old), I felt extremely wishy washy and fickle. I somewhat knew what I wanted in a boyfriend/mate, but not really. I’d like a boy one day, and then the next I’d be turned off by something ridiculous he said, how he styled his hair or some other silly reason. I told the Lord I wanted His choice and asked Him to do a miracle as he did for Mrs. Cathy and make it obvious who my husband should be.
I dated some in high school and had some serious boyfriends. Fast forward to college. I had a very serious boyfriend in college, but I knew he wasn’t “the one”.
During the end of my senior year of college, my best girlfriend and one of my best guy friends got engaged. I was truly happy for each one of them. But, I distinctly remember walking by myself back to my dorm on campus (after celebrating the engagement of one of my dearest friends). I prayed aloud to God as I walked.
“Lord, have you forgotten me? You know better than me that I’m going into a female-dominated profession. There’s not much chance of me meeting the man of my dreams in the elementary school where I’ll be teaching. Do you see me? Hear me? Please answer my prayer and reveal to me who my husband will be.”
I continued to pray regularly for God to show me and make the decision obvious so I wouldn’t make a mistake and marry the wrong person. I knew the BEST would come from HIM vs. me. I continued to ask Him for guidance, direction and to make it extremely obvious.
After college graduation, I moved back to my parents’ home and taught in a wonderful local elementary school in my hometown and the county I grew up in. In addition to loving my job of teaching 4th graders, I was busy in my church teaching and serving. One of the ministries I was involved with was the orchestra. Our church had a phenomenal choir and orchestra. I began playing my clarinet in our orchestra when I was in junior high school and continued throughout college. Our “Baptist Band” had grown into a full-fledge professional sounding orchestra with every instrument and even strings.
Each year our music ministry traveled to a retreat center in Toccoa. We’d spend the weekend practicing Christmas music, getting ready for The Living Christmas Tree program that ran for numerous days/evenings. This particular year was the first time I had been on the retreat.
The conference center in Toccoa was so refreshing. It wasn’t anything fancy, but it had a warmth and feeling of home about it. I walked into the large auditorium where we would be rehearsing.
I was looking around as I got my clarinet out of the case and began putting it together. There were probably twenty glass windows that went from the ceiling to the floor that surrounded the building and provided an incredible view of a beautiful lake. As I looked out those picture windows, I could see the gorgeous lake, the green dense forest and the picturesque and serene surrounding area. All of it was just lovely…a perfect spot for a retreat.
As I gazed at the beauty of the scenery outside, out of my periphery I saw a man standing across from me on the other side of the auditorium. He was holding a violin (I later found out it was a viola); he was tall, dark and handsome. I didn’t know who he was or his name; I didn’t know where he had come from (I knew everyone in the 35+ piece orchestra as well as the much-larger choir); and where he had appeared from! At that moment, it was as if the Lord literally tapped me on the shoulder. I distinctly heard , “He will be your husband one day.”
To say I was stunned would be an understatement. It’s been close to 40 years since I had that encounter with the Lord, but I still recall it vividly.
I knew in that ordinary but sacred moment, God had answered my prayers!! I was in awe but grateful.
That weekend I found out the man’s name and got to know him.
He was handsome, and what I knew about him, I liked.
When I got back home, I shared the entire story with my mother. I wasn’t sure what my dad would think, but I knew some friends would think I had lost my mind.
My mother kept what I told her confidential until I shared details with a few family/friends. And I think she knew from that moment on, I was smitten.
I don’t know if I began liking this man or God developed that in me because of what He told me.
Norman was the man’s name; we became friends; both of us played in our church’s orchestra and were actively involved in the singles’ ministry at our church.
Several close friends knew how I felt about Norman. Fellow teacher friends of mine that taught at the same school and/or the same grade knew I was smitten with him. Some prodded and encouraged me to ask him out (since he was giving me mixed signals and NOT asking me out). But I waited; I trusted what God told me.
Norman traveled to China and smuggled Bibles. During that same year and same summer, I traveled to Liberia, West Africa where I taught missionaries’ children and children in the bush.
When we returned from those individual mission trips, Norman FINALLY asked me out on a first date!
It was two long excruciating years before Norman asked me out on a date. Two years from the time I first heard, “He will be your husband one day.” But I believed and waited.
I remember our first date like yesterday…the excitement but nervousness I felt…what I wore, what he wore, and he brought me flowers. We went to a fancy restaurant in Atlanta that’s no longer there and talked forever; it was comfortable from the start. Afterwards, we went to see a play at The Fox Theater in Atlanta. It was The Odd Couple. The play was good and funny, but it was uncomfortable as the couple sitting in front of us kept making out in between scenes. It was super awkward!
He told me many months later that he almost asked me to marry him on our first date. And if he had, I would’ve said “yes”! That was because I was convinced of what God whispered to me that day in Toccoa when God literally spoke to me and pointed out my future husband.
There’s much more to “our story”. I’ll save his part of the saga for next time.
Why do I share this account of how I met my husband? It’s not to pass on a wonderful love story, even though ours was and is. It’s not to share a personal nugget from my past.
I share to let you know that the One True Mighty God that came to earth in the form of a man and put on bones and flesh, He is still in the miracle business. Jesus, who was also God, walked the earth thousands of years ago. He healed the lame, the sick, the deaf, the mute, the blind and the demon-possessed. He healed hearts and lives.
Today, He still heals. And He still answers prayers.
And He still performs a miracle by understanding a young girl’s heart and answering prayers of a 14-year old girl!
By the way, several years ago, I was asked to share this testimony at a women’s event for Valentine’s Day being held at our church. Little did I know that Jeanette Cathy was in attendance with her daughter, Trudy. She waited for me afterwards and told me how much my testimony meant to her. She had no idea the impact she had on me, my Christian walk or my life.
Praise be to God for His faithfulness in bringing my husband to me!
For those who struggle with the idea that God is sovereign and in control of world events as well as your own little world. Here are just a few things God had to orchestrate:
Norman’s dad had a brain aneurysm in 1985…totally unexpected. Bill almost died, but God restored his health. But this major tragedy is what God used for Norman to put in a transfer with the FAA to get closer to his aging parents in Nashville, TN. The God of the Universe used this health scare to get my future husband to Georgia…and specifically to me!
When I was in the 7th grade, my mother had me choose between two favorite pastimes…ballet and clarinet. She said I couldn’t keep doing both due to the time or money. I needed to make a decision, and she left that up to me. I didn’t know until years later that she was so disappointed I chose clarinet over ballet. God was apparently in that decision, even though I don’t really remember praying or consulting Him. What if I had chosen ballet? Would God have brought us together through different means?
Norman moved here from Albuquerque, NM; that city was where he was first sent when he was hired as an air traffic controller with the FAA. While he was there, the Baptist church he was actively involved in went through a very difficult period, and Norman left and went to another church. The LAST place he wanted to attend was a Baptist church when he moved to GA, but that’s where God lead him for us to meet!
These scenarios are just a tip of the iceberg of what God had to be in control of to bring Norman and me together. It truly humbles and astounds me to think of His sovereignty and power!!
Do you believe God still performs miracles?